Is Your Dad your Hero?

When I was small, me and my dad would always go out and play soccer at the park. he would take me everywhere and buy me anything I wanted. In sum, I was spoiled and because I was the only one I got what I wanted. You may think I am the first-born , but I tell you I am not. As a matter a fact, I am the second child and my brother is the eldest. Nevertheless, as I was telling you my dad was the maximum. He was like my superman, my batman and my spiderman combined, but when my sister was born everything changed. Instead of taking me to the park and play soccer, he would take me to the park and took care of my sister. Instead of going out and eating ice cream, he would stay home and babysit my sister. I was young and I couldn't understand why my dad didn't hanged out with me like before. Then everything changed and I slowly began to dislike my dad. He wasn't my hero anymore and surely he wasn't my everything.



I remember one day my dad came from work and he kissed my little sister and said hello excluding me. I felt sad and mad all together and I remembered that I cried. Those days were the darkest days in my life and everything changed in my life. I would begin to behave bad at school and I would ignore my dad just like he ignored me. My mom would always picked me up from school and she told me that she hated when she was called to got to the principal's office. My mom would ask me why did I behave in such way and my only answer was in a form of shrugging my shoulders. Like I tell you, since my sister came to this earth, my respect towards my dad has been negative. I did however liked my sister, and I was never mad at her for being loved. I still love her and we help each other with our homework. Although our relationship isn't perfect, we still hold that mutual love.



As in for my dad, I still have trouble loving him and respecting him because of the way he has treated me for the past 12 years, but when my mom tells me how hard my dad works and when I see him with great grief, my inner thoughts towards him change. I realize that my dad does everything possible so I could have the best. He doesn't tell me he loves me, but I know he does. This scenerio might be the same to you. I don't know how to put it, but I could tell you that our dads are different than our moms. Our dads may be more strict or behave differently than our moms, but they are still lovely in their own ways. As a guy, I can tell you that we do not like to share our feelings and as a result we act a certain way.

Going back to what I was saying, our dads are very hardworking and whether or not you have a great relationship with him or not doesn't mean that they do not set an example. You may say something like, "what? my dad doesn't set any example all he does is smoking and drinking. He hits my mom and he never cares about me." Its true that he doesn't set an example by doing such horrendous things like that, but do you really think he doesn't. If you think about it this way, our dads do set example even in circumstances like these. How? Let me explain. The way he sets an example is by making you choose to do the contrary when you grow up. Who ever said that setting an example always have to be positive. Setting an example can be done either way. So think and really analyze your father acts the way he does. Ask yourself what can i do to set an example for him. what can i do to make him reduce his caliber of his actions.

How can you set an example?

The question begins with you. How can you set example for the rest of the world? Well you can begin doing so by getting good grades, by being a scholar in class and helping out classmates, by being courageous and confident by raising your hand or participate in class discussion, by helping out the teachers or simply by picking thrash off the floor when everyone decided not to. A great leader begins with the innermost desire to set an example. Great leaders from the past have courageously stood up when the odds were against them. They fear not and decided to dissent regardless of the adversary. A great leader doesn't become a great leader from day to night, it takes practice. It goes the same like me lifting up 200 pounds of weights and expect to do it when i never lifted a weight heavier than 90 pounds. What I am trying to say is that whenever you see that something is wrong and you don't do anything about it then you are just as guilty as the person who did it. 

I personally struggle with this an i don't expect anyone to do such things right away because as previously mentioned it takes time and above all it takes the desire. If you want to be the same old boring person that practices their quotidian affairs like if it were to be a broken record, that is your choice. Everything in this world has a choice it is just a matter a fact if you made the right choices.

Moving on, if you do choose however to follow the righteous path and you feel that your heart and mind desires to be a great leader or just a person who likes to be an example well i tell you that in order for you to be a successful leader it takes a lot. You have to realize that setting an example is one thing and being an example is another. You also have to realize that the path you will take in order to be a successful leader is arduous and nonetheless  risky. You will have to take risks and be able to outsmart any obstacle. I don't remember the text that is found in the Bible , but I'll look it up that says whenever you try to do what is right a whole sea of obstacles falls on you and the current will never stop until you drown or loses its momentum. 

What this is trying to say is that there will be a lot of tests and obstacles whenever you or anyone tries to do the better, the current either loses its momentum, which this can only happen if you endure the obstacles, or the current will drown you. Obviously if the current drowned you, well that is it.

I want to leave you with a key thought in your mind that whatever you do try to do it for the better and whatever you don't do is like relinquishing the trigger out of its mind.